A 5-year-old girl was sent out of class, then made to change her outfit after she arrived at school wearing a summer dress with a spaghetti strap.

Emily


A 5-year-old girl was sent out of class, then made to change her outfit after she arrived at school wearing a summer dress with a spaghetti strap.

Emily Stewart, the girl's mother, took to Facebook to express outrage after her daughter returned home from kindergarten wearing a different outfit.

Emily Stewart had sent Harmony to school in the spaghetti-strap dress, bought for her by her grandma, over a pair of jeans and with a thin jumper over the top. But Harmony returned in a T-shirt. When she asked her what had happened, the girl said she was told to leave class and see the nurse. On getting there, the nurse told her to "cover her body."Emily said Harmony started bawling when she asked her how she felt about the incident.

Emily wrote on Facebook: Ok this is gonna be long.

The picture on the left is showing what my daughter was wearing to school this morning. The picture on the right is what I picked her up in. She is in kindergarten and she is 5.

Now, I knew the weather would be nice today. I sent her to school with a light sweater over her dress and jeans underneath of it. It’s a new dress that her grandma got her and she really wanted to wear it. we live in Minnesota and having 65 degree weather in April a week after a snow storm is everything to us in the Midwest. So, I thought “yeah it will be nice out you can wear a dress.” And that was the end of my thinking. It didn’t occur to me that an adult would look at my 5 year old child and think that wearing a dress was inappropriate.

She was told that she needed to leave class and go to the nurses office.The nurse told her that she needed to cover her body and made her put on this T-shirt.

I am not making this post to bash the school or say anything bad. I’m making this post to raise some discussion.

As a mother, how am I supposed to teach my daughter to love and celebrate her body when she has people telling her she “needs privacy.”

What exactly is private about a 5 year olds shoulders?Why is it ok to put my daughters bare shoulders before her education?Why was her dress looked at as an inappropriate outfit to begin with? She is 5 why is she being sexualized?I asked her when I picked her up “why are you wearing a T-shirt?”She said “I was told I had to put something on because I need privacy.”

I then asked “how did that make you feel when they told you that?”She started bawling.She was excited to wear that dress to school and show her friends and play in it on the play ground.She said to me “I don’t know why they told me I couldn’t wear my dress it was super embarrassing.”

How do I teach a little girl that what she wears and her appearance is not nearly as important as her education and self development when things like this happen?   Emily's post received a lot of attention as web users expressed outrage and called out the school for their actions.  Emily later shared an update, revealing that the "school has been approached and the policy has been changed."She added that the policy "no longer includes the ability for adults to make determinations about the appropriateness of a child’s body." 
Share To:

Afolabi James

Post A Comment:

0 comments so far,add yours

What do you think?